Get someone who gets you!
Valentines is coming! I am not big on valentines – but in the spirit of valentines I thought I would write something about love. If you know me then you know that one of the things I am grateful for when it comes to my marriage – is my husband is my friend! This is something I hold so dear, and I have always loved about us.
I love us because we get each other! The other day we were talking about our careers, and our plans this year – and the next day when I was at work, I felt such a warmness in my heart because throughout that conversation I realized that he not only sees me as a wife but as a partner. When talking about careers, he never tells me to “tone it down”, he does the complete opposite – he cheers me on, and even challenges me!
Love is a beautiful thing, but like my parents always tell us – it is a two way affair! It goes beyond words to actions, I need to show the people I love that I love them, and they need to do the same for me. And this is something I really appreciate about my marriage – I never feel like I love too much, I always feel like I love right.
A while back I had a conversation with a friend, and one of the things that I left with was that your partner is YOUR partner, and so they have to be right for YOU – not for everyone else. As a young wife, I am always advised by people on what to do to make my marriage last – and of the things my mind has had locked since day one is – my marriage is mine, and the only people who know how to make it last are God, my husband and I. This is not to say that I don’t listen to what I am told, I listen but to only what is applicable to us!
I feel like people tend to over sacrifice and over compensate when in love, and sometimes end up losing themselves in the process. It is so important to get someone who gets you – and appreciates you for who you are. So that even if you decide to change, it is to become better and you actually want to change – so it is not imposed on you! I have changed, I won’t lie – but I haven’t lost myself, I have contributed to the change and I feel like it is positive change.
As you celebrate love and the person you love this weekend (and for life) – strive to get them, to appreciate them, and to push them to be better! Remember love is not a one way street, so don’t be that person who always expects to receive yet not give!
Thanks for reading!
Happy Valentines weekend!